So...you're wrong. Not sure what 'anti-woke' trash youtuber (they whip themselves on the same purity tests the woke crowd does, just reverse) you're watching to pick up that impression from.
BG3 lets you be racist, should you choose to be. It's Forgotten Realms after all, race is a huge deal in that D&D setting. Gith and Lolth-Sworn Drow are inherently racists and have plenty of dialogue options to enable it. Several NPCs and even certain companions start out as racists.
BG3 lets you attempt to have multiple lovers within your party...see if it works out for you because they all have their own personalities and operate like dynamic characters instead of "Press X for Romance" like many, many other RPGs do. But yes, you can romance anyone. If you can figure them out enough for them to like you back. There's plenty of NPCs in implied (not in your face) same-sex relationships. The character creation pronouns, genitals, and body type really play no part in the game except what you see and hear on screen. Nobody really cares about it. The twitter woke crowd hates it anyway because genitals have a "Default" but none of them are playing the game because otherwise, they'd be saying how good it is.
BG3 lets you be a shining superhero doing good everywhere. BG3 lets you be someone who intends to do good, but backfires and forces you to live with the consequences of your choices. BG3 lets you be a complete asshole. BG3 lets you be a tormented/willing monster with The Dark Urge and its unique dialogues and cinematics.
BG3 is easy Game of the Year in a year that is flush with some truly amazing games. Easily best cRPG of the last 10 years, and arguably the best RPG in the last 20 years. It is the purest representation of what it feels like to play D&D tabletop with a DM that is willing to let you push the boundaries of their setting.
It's a really fucking good game. You're doing yourself a disservice to dismiss it for something so stupid.