Terra defeats your privacy part 302: The Relationship (& luv) Thread

[TruthofMistake]

Woo, my turn to add to this thread. So... I spent a good 4-5 months pursuing a girl who was supposedly interested in me but, after less then a week of dating me, decided that she wanted to slow things down and not be a couple but just date... Ok I thought, that's fine, but said dates never seemed to happen. We would plan something out and she would claim to forget about it or bring other people along, namely her ex-boyfriend who she was still most definatly not over but claimed to want to be... So after said 4-5 months she decided she didn't want anything to do with me after all and went running back to the before mentioned ex-boyfriend. Whatever, I'm pretty much over that and have written off as experience, albeit a poor one.

So, into the present. I am currently pursuing a girl who is a good 2 years older then me and it appears to have a heavy influence in how she feels about me. I asked her out a while ago but she misunderstood it to be me asking to hang out with her more often which she agreed to. I'm pretty sure i'm in the infamous friend zone right now and would rather not be, as she is pretty attractive, and fun to hang out with. Right now I'm teaching her to play tennis and we hang out in person a day or so every week, and talk online most days. What should I do, try and advance things, or just stick with the way things are and hope for the best?

[docdan63]

well I say go for it man, My first lady was a year older than I was and it was fine.

[Yukimura]

Doesn't anyone have an uplifting story where they went for a girl who wasn't initially into them but they managed to win her over with perseverance and then proceded to have build a healthy stable relationship?

[docdan63]

dude, what?

That kind of situation shouldn't exist until you're like 27+(the relationship part, not winning her over). Anyone between 18-26 should just be having fun, and date around

IMO getting girls to like you instead is WAAY better than getting them over to your side.Much easier too

Plus, as far as I know, most people in thier 20's have too much fun stuff going on to worry about anything long term. Why would you bother with that anyway? You're only 20, 21, 22, etc once in your life.


Enjoy it I always say.

[Yukimura]

Well I meant getting a girl from neutral dismissal to her liking you enough for good things happen repeatably and both have fun. It wouldn't have to be happily ever after, since that'd get boring pretty fast. Most of good success stories in here are about Terra, who girls seem to simply throw themselves at. That's all well and good, but what about the less awesome folks?

[kenren]

I don't know if this story of mine can fit this thread. Please don't kill me >.<

so, when i was 15 , i confessed to this girl that i had been chatting with. We went to the same tuition classes. I was indirectly rejected. So i thought, "Forget it, a guy like me is better off being a beggar than a chooser" and time flows..But, funny thing is.. we were talking to each other more often after i was rejected. So when i was 16, i confessed again and yeah, i was accepted. So, time passed..we were very close at some point until last few months ago..she started to ignore me, i tried very hard to keep our bonds together as usual, but things don't seem to work out. Then, she told me that she wanted to be just friends, i broke down. I guess another guy came into her life. She left saying that my attitude sucks and she don't like it. But, why now? aren't we suppose to tolerate with each other? .. okay..nevermind that. That's all. Sorry for the bad english.

i guess this is what they called "puppy love"

[Death BOO Z]

she's a girl, she's obviously crazy. not much to do about it.
you just have to decide whether you like her enough to cling to her and take what she gives, or to move on and cut your ties with (to somewhat degree) and try to meet someone new.

besides, it doesn't really matter what you choose, you can just happen to meet someone cute without trying to.