Terra defeats your privacy part 302: The Relationship (& luv) Thread

[rockmanj]

Hmmm...well, I think i may have let my kind nature interfere with mt amorous pursuits, and i think the only way to recify it is through shady means. So, I'm at my friend's party a couple of weeks ago, and one of his good friends (and my coworker)'s gf brings her friend along. Now said friend was pretty nice looking, i thought, but like, all the guys that talked to her walked away, because she told them she cant speak english. So, in my book, that's a red flag, and i immedieately just chalk her up to a lost cause.
However, like about an hour later, im mixing myself a drink, and she wanders over and starts talking to me in english, of all things...and then she starts with extremely heavy flirting...and sometimes i'm oblivious to signs, but there was no way i could miss these cues. And i shouldve done the smart thing, and just ran with it...unfortunately, another friend was gunning for her, and the previous night i kinda took a girl away from him, so i felt guilty, and did not pursue.
Afterwards, though, i felt shitty about it, cuz nothin came of it, due to the fact that he was chasing like 4 girls around, so she's still probably all alone at home...doing whatever it is she does. And, now that all my other options seem to have dried up, i kinda wanna get with her more, but i dont see a feasible way. I cant ask my coworker, cause he's a douche, and i cant ask his gf, cause he keeps her away from me for some reason. My friends suggest i hang out at the dunkin donuts in her apt. building, but that's stalking and its creepy. So all i have now is random chance...like maybe i see her around town or something :-\.
Also, i met another girl, and i kinda lied about my age, which wouldn't have been that bad if i said i was 25, but i said i was born in 1981 (which isnt true at all). I lied because women here arent supposed to be friends with younger guys...but it turns out my fake age isnt old enough either, but she really doesnt seem to mind. So, for problem one...i dont know what to do; i guess leave it to chance :-(. Problem 2...im not sure if i should come clean or not, and also not sure how to do it. I cant exactly say, "i thought i was born in 81..oops!!" I'll sound like an idiot or something.

[masamuneehs]

why not go by the Dunken Donuts every now and then? Maybe don't hang out there, as that's pretty desperate, but if you think she might be there and you want to see her, you can casually bump into her. Leaving it up to chance is fine, but if you can increase your chances a bit, why the hell not?

More importantly, what's her friend's deal with not wanting you to get with her? Bad female opinions can kill a man.

Your're probably going to get burned on the lie eventually, if you keep this chick around. She'll hear from someone else or you'll just muck up one day. You'll probably just have to suck it up and tell her, making sure to explain that you were afraid she'd not want to 'hang' with you if you told her your honest age. Some people find that kind of shit 'cute/adorable', others think it's pitiful and sleazy. Hope she's the former.

[rockmanj]

why not go by the Dunken Donuts every now and then? Maybe don't hang out there, as that's pretty desperate, but if you think she might be there and you want to see her, you can casually bump into her. Leaving it up to chance is fine, but if you can increase your chances a bit, why the hell not?

More importantly, what's her friend's deal with not wanting you to get with her? Bad female opinions can kill a man.

Your're probably going to get burned on the lie eventually, if you keep this chick around. She'll hear from someone else or you'll just muck up one day. You'll probably just have to suck it up and tell her, making sure to explain that you were afraid she'd not want to 'hang' with you if you told her your honest age. Some people find that kind of shit 'cute/adorable', others think it's pitiful and sleazy. Hope she's the former.

Geez, u really dont pull the punches.. However, i do agree with what ur sayin. And the thing with the friend is totally due to the jerk i work with. It is understandable though, as his good friend tried to get with her. The thing is, his gf told him to tell me something apparently good that her friend wanted me to know, but he didnt do it. I know this because i sat right in front of him while he was on the phone with her, and he looked me in the eyes, and said nothing. Add to that, he told his girlfriend something bad (and most likely untrue) about me, and that's part of the reason she avoids me, i think. So i guess getting a coolatta every now and then wont hurt.


And the lying thing was dumb...real dumb

On an unrelated note...a girl that i occassionally blow into town to..."hang out with" asked me if i would like to help sire her sister's child...WTF???!!!?!!

[masamuneehs]

it has been a while...

tonight was a friend's 22nd birthday, so we all go out drinking at this bar, sorta upscale place, not really my scene... Yankee game is on, just chilling, whatever.

So I wind up talking to this complete stranger, who I can tell is a little older than me, talks about work alot and whatever. But I'm totally into it, I mean, gotta slammin body and also seemed to be interested. We both drink a little and talk almost the whole time I'm at the place.

So, eventually the question comes up, what to do at the end of the night? Stranger lives around the block, it turns out, and I really am not sober enough to drive home yet. And, hell, I'm horny and this feels alright, so I agree.

We go outside, and in the streetlight I notice it, age. Like I said, slamming body, awesome legs and ass and very in shape, but you look in the face and you KNOW that this person is older. And it dawns on me yet that I haven't asked. So, I'm like, "How old are you?"

Response is, "39".

Okay. Wow. What to do! That's almost twice my age, and seeing that age in the face (no matter who you are, you're going to show it in the face, and it's just a turn off) really has me giving second thoughts. But I say, "Okay, that's fine. Yeah, I'm sure."

And we go, and it was a pretty fun time. Got awesome head, some service that I've never had before, and the sex was pretty hot too. But I just felt so nervous! Before I was shooting game, acting all casual, but upon realizing the age difference, I totally tensed up. I felt like my movements were all clumsy and slow and I could tell that I was with someone who really knew what they were doing. At one point I say, "I feel like I'm acting all tense and nervous". To which the response is, "well, you sorta are"

But mutual orgasms were had by both sides (I aim to please), and I leave. I hang out with my buddies, and IMMEDIATELY get a call, which I ignore. I have a voice mail being all, "Oh I had such a good time and I hope I can see you again. blahblahblah..."

and motherfucker called back again just as i'm getting home, and I say, "listen, I really am not much for phone." "Can I see you tomorrow again?" "...er... I dunno... I'm sorta not sure how I feel about this (YOU'RE ALMOST FORTY YEARS OLD!)... I did have fun, but..."

And so it's all awkward. This person knows the mother of a kid I went to high school with, for crying out loud! I don't know what to do... if it was around my age, I'd probably have spent the night, but... It's just too much!

(okay, had to vent, there you have it)

[rockmanj]

Way to go...Milf bagging, son (i like it!)

[Assertn]

Way to go...Milf bagging, son (i like it!)

or Dilf

[rockmanj]

Seems i kinda messed myself up again...Kinda like Dirk Nowitzki; everyone knows that he has the skills, but when it clutch time, he totally becomes a bum (a little NBA reference, for those of you that watch b-ball). Its actually affecting my sleep...Earlier tonight i met a pretty attractive chick out, by random chance, who apparently was into me (although im kinda bad at reading signs).

I know this for many reasons, the main being that she said it explicitly, and that she kept asking when i was leaving....and i totally messed it up. well not totally, but tonight is a bust for me, while her friend and my friend are probably making the beast with two backs as i type this.

This is why i never recommend going anywhere sober. Also, showering is imporant too (I didnt plan on seeing anyone today, i woke up from my hangover this afternoon, and my only plan was to get sushi, but i ran into a friend...and ended up a lil drunk, and meeting hot chicks about 9 hours later...no shower, no brushing the teeth :\ )

P.S. now, im a little bit tipsy