Quote Originally Posted by Dark Dragon
I have this friend who has been like my best friend since childhood.

I occasionally see him when i get back home on break from college. I remember him being a pretty smart guy, not straight A's or anything but does decent in school.

It's been 3 years since we graduated high school and he's almost 22 now. He started his first semester of college 6 at a local community college and barely passed with straight C's. He's been living in his parents house since he graduated and held no stable jobs during the period. When we talk, he simply said that he doesn't want to do anything and he's only going to school because he's being forced to. He doesn't do anything but stay home and watch TV shows all day, and he doesn't even want to go hang out even if i offered to pay.

He's always been a bit lazy but nothing this bad. I just don't understand how a person can have absolutely no motivation to do anything with their life.
I totally understand him. In fact, I can't say we're very different (but I'm probably not quite as worse as it's coming off as). I've got a job, I'm passing solidly (but I don't get my straight A's anymore), with the exception of one course this year.

Has this guy's parents pushed him a lot in his younger years to do well in school? I find that to be my own case. He (and I I suppose) probably set "do well in school" as his goal, a goal that was sort of forced onto him. Then when you finish high school, parents think "Oh good, he's graduated. I'm glad he did well. He can do whatever course he wants now. Go do it son. Since you're a university student now, I guess I should give you some freedom too."

Sudden increase in freedom, lack of any prior experiences (probably due to study and stricter parents), leaves him hanging. He doesn't have to do well in university anymore. He's not forced to do anything anymore. Since he doesn't know what he wants to do himself, life kind of just drifts by him.