Most illogical is that Shepard believes everything the apparition tells him. What have it done to earn such trust. Most logical would be the refusal. Any other of "their" choices could be exactly what the reapers want you to do.

But if you trust his options I feel Control is still the right choice. At last since I'm paragon. Controls give victory without sacrificing anyone. Sure it doesn't kill any reapers but is that all there is to the war? To kill them off and get revenge? Control seems like the paragon choice.

Synthesis is similar except you force "evolution" on everyone. That feels very immoral to me. It also feels like it borders on renegade. It had the added bonus of making the reapers help the universe and share the knowledge they have gained so far. But you can't know that before so you can't say that is why you choose that option.

Destroy feels like the renegade option. Victory at all cost. "Someone have to make the though calls". So renegade Shepard chooses to sacrifice everyone synthetic to make sure you gain victory for the rest of the galaxy. However it is the only choice that guaranties that the reapers are gone for good.