Spoken like someone who doesn't know any gay people.
The cool part about baseless arguments like yours is that they can be countered by similar anecdotal evidence by people who have also served and abhor such a ridiculous policy.
Edit: The most retarded thing about that Gates quote is the hypocrisy of it.
Suddenly the government gives a shit about what the servicemen feel about certain issues because it's convenient and makes an emotional appeal, regardless of how untrue it may be (and overwhelmingly is).
It wasn't insensitive when they are sent to go kill brown people without asking them how they felt about it. Why the sudden show of empathy?
Anyway, I won't myself be a hypocrite, so here is some factual evidence indicating that everything you said is basically wrong:
http://www.law.columbia.edu/media_in.../gays-military