Your point would be valid if her mom didn't just say she wasn't going to force her to marry someone (though she did say it had to be someone that met her standards).
Also, her dad has actually met Kirito in the hospital, hasn't he? He was also the one who chose the crazy guy. He most likely doesn't feel the same way.
This definitely felt like her mom was taking all of this into her own hands. Probably because her dad had given up on trying to force her to do stuff after the previous incident.

Her mom actually has a lot of good points in their discussion, but is a total jerk about it and goes about the discussion of Asuna's future in completely the wrong way.
Asuna hit the nail on the head at the end of the conversation, calling her mom out on her own inadequacies.

I really don't understand your "God Kirito" rant. He is a fairly normal person, and there are plenty of other normal-ish characters in the show.
If anything, you should be complaining about how SAO is basically an exploration of "Introverted nice guy is super popular" which isn't really the case in the real world. But this is anime, so this shouldn't be very surprising.

Kirito probably could have beaten her with dual wield and skill connect, but showing off in front of large crowds for not much of a good reason isn't really his personality. I would also imagine the thing he asked her about in battle was more of a reason that he went easier on her than her just being a girl. Even if he was going easy on her because she was a girl, you're still exaggerating way too much.