I came to see why this thread has 50 posts or something (I don't watch this show). I'm surprised, but also not that surprised.
Much of the earlier debate could have been solved with a Venn diagram but you guys worked it out anyway.
As for the DSM criteria, I'll list it here for convenience.
Basically:Originally Posted by DSM
1) You like kids. AND
2) You've approached a kid, or you like kids to the point where you can't function in society due to this. AND
3) You weren't recently a kid.
"Acted on these urges" is not defined, but I understand that to mean "sexually harassing someone". Jacking off to them in private... not so much, unless it causes you distress and shit.
Note that for pretty much all mental health disorders, it's only a disorder if it causes issues with the person functioning in society. Such as either raping kids, or feeling so distressed about his urges that it affects their life.
A farmer in the sticks with a fear of heights who doesn't actually live somewhere that lets him manifest the fear into dysfunction doesn't have acrophobia.
A medieval prince who taps 13yos doesn't have paedophilia because DSM 5 wasn't out back then, but also because it's socially acceptable and part of society then.
As for people who dig 2D shota and loli but otherwise behave themselves and don't feel particularly distressed in their society (like Japan)? They don't have a mental health disorder. They just have different tastes.
And "loli"? Child-like appearance regardless of age. Boobs or no boobs is debatable but obviously not massive boobs.